“Fear is a necessary companion.” Elizabeth Gilbert

The other day I was getting creative with quotes and came across

“Fear is a necessary companion.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

I created a social media post and then did not share it.

Fear defined: verb: be afraid of (someone or something) as likely to be dangerous, painful, or threatening. noun: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.

I stopped and reflected “Is this true for me? Do I believe that Fear is a Necessary Companion?”

Because I was questioning I sat down to write a blog about it.  I picked up a note book, found an empty page and a pen. The idea was to write about fear and what was coming up for me. The writing proved to be a bit different than I had originally conceived. I envisioned all of my fears pouring out of the pen on to the page.

Everything I was scared of, all of my challenges, every pain about lack, loss and all doubts about past actions or future outcomes were suppose to come forward. But this is not what showed up.

What showed up was the “What if it did happen?” test.

What if….

  • I got sick
  • I got lonely
  • I end up alone
  • I lost everything and everyone
  • There was no money.

Every WHAT IF and MAYBE was analyzed away. None of it was for certain. I role played through the out comes.

When I thought about how fear holds me back, it’s about hurt & harm, loss & pain, judgement, less than experiences or missing out. It all comes from a lack mentality. Focusing on the negative. The fears became more like NAGS. The shoulding – I was doing to myself. The recognition of what I felt I was denying myself.

Prominent Nags for me…

  • Health – Exercise more, eat better, chose healthy habits
  • Declutter – get rid of what is not used, loved or sacred
  • Collect No’s – asking for business from others
  • Seeking specific experiences

Having concerns and nags around different things definitely helps spur me to pursue various paths. However, the definition of Fear –  Beliefs of Danger, Pain, and Threats –  doesn’t resonate with me.

Then there was happiness, acceptance, and love. I am the decision maker. Allowing fear to have a deciding voice will keep my life sheltered and very small.

It is worth my time and energy to go after those things I want.

In life am I doing everything I want to? Am I creating a LIFE I LOVE?

Lack doesn’t live here. What does live here is opportunity, love, play, impact and beautiful experiences. So I say YES to more learning, more creating, more socializing, sharing impactful messages and making an impact and playing with others.

Sorry this quote is not true for me.

The value in guest sites

Is your website the place for your blog?

This week a question around blog posts came up…

Are you one of the many that concentrate on creating blog posts for your website?

Content right?! Sharing our story….

A client featured her first blog on a group blog site, local to her area and in the demographic she is personally in. Her blog was sharing a story that is deep and meaningful to many other women her age.

I see so many benefits for her in finding a network that connected with others, sharing her challenges. She is able to be a support for so many, more quickly than she may have reached on her own.

I question if the depth of connection and interaction could ever be the same with her efforts on her own site.

Can you see the benefit in sharing your posts originally on guest sites and then linking them to your site?

What are guest sites? Sites and groups that are not yours.

Would you like help looking for sites like these?



Planning Day – Vision

Planning Tuesday


This morning was dedicated to planning. So website updates it was.

In making changes to this site future vision has been created.

Old material on the site was changed from published to draft.

Pages were revised on the menu. Pages, Posts and Links were added.

Simplicity is the focus for everything on this site.

Some of the questions asked for which changes were based on:

 Is Everything Easy to Find?

Is it Friendly and Inviting?

Is there Planned Growth?

There are more questions that can be asked but for today this was a start.

SystemsGirl is big on Community we’ve participated in helping event organizers with charity events. Roles have varied depending on the event. With some it was a full Social Media Marketing Strategy, with Administrative and Volunteer support. For others it was sharing a charity event to build awareness. Always looking for an opportunity to share, how with a system it might be simpler and less time consuming.

The Blog here is where we will share what is going on. Such as this post.

Adventures – are a must. I can see this page of the site being a lot of fun going forward. Currently there are 3 major Adventures underway…

1. SMBizStudent – Learn Something and Share it

Focus is on Social Media Sharing, Strategy and Amplifying Voice, Creating Attention Online, Sharing a Message and knowing Your Audience.

2. SmallBizStudent -Business is Forever being a Student

 In business there is so much to know. Learning, growing and implementing something new regularly, is the focus. Taking Small  Businesses Back to School.

3. Partnerships – the residual income portion of SystemsGirl.

Because every Business could have residual income. This section is where we have Partnered, or have referral or affiliate relationships built with other companies. These companies are Positively Impacting in the world with their tools and resources and we recommend you have a better look at them.

Future Vision and Planning

Memberships and Affiliates are 2 sections where planning really showed up. The plans are to develop these pieces in the near future – thus the COMING SOON

There will always be learning and sharing here.

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