Create A 90 Day Plan eBook Launch

We are less than 90 days to 2018.

Timing could not be better.

The “Create A 90 Day Plan” eBook

Launches to the public,

Friday Oct 13, 2017.

For more information Email

Dealing with Disappointment

Moving into a CAN DO Approach

By 9am this morning a theme for the day had already emerged.

First we were running late so managing distractions and getting morning routine to dos accomplished in less time was a major focus. Here are the steps I took.

  • 1: What absolutely has to be done?
  •  2: What can I do first to make things easier, better, move on?
  • 3: Do step 2
  • 4: repeat steps 1 through 4

Sounds easy right?! Thankfully this morning it was. But add disappointment and emotion to the mix and getting to Step 1 can be very clouded.

Let me share a story with you…

A year ago I had the benefit of being involved with amazing people doing fundraising and creating awareness for a cause in desperate need of attention. The cause related to addiction and recovery for women. Women’s health is very important to me – not only because I happen to be a woman, but this was amplified by the fact that the focus group was women with children. Yes, I’m also a Mother.

The cause I speak of is Recovery Acres and their fundraising to build a Women’s Recovery Centre. This year that Recovery Centre was built. However, I’ve learned that the funding that was hoped for may be pulled or withdrawn. This is a disappointment for me.

Now in my role as a mother we deal with disappointments all the time. As children grow managing expectations and disappointment are a huge part of healthy development and life skills. We are handed all kinds of things in life and how we handle it, our reaction (proactive or otherwise) and our actions (what we do, the solutions we look for and the resources we employ) play a prominent role. There is a quote if find fitting here.

God is a comedian playing to an audience too afraid to laugh. Voltaire

I use the word God interchangeably with the Universe or any other higher spiritual entity you have chosen to adopt. What comes up for me is that life is a playground and being human is about finding the best way to play with any given situation. Not that all situations are funny or a laughing matter as many are exactly the opposite.

A big part of playing with life for me is like seeing a disappointment or challengee830b30c29f6073ed95c4518b74f4e94eb7fe4d704b015469cf9c378a7ecb0_640 as a ball that has been thrown my way. We have choices… WE CAN….

  • let the ball pass by – like ignoring it
  • let the ball hit us and complain about it
  • catch the ball
    • and drop it, for someone else to play with
    • take the ball and put it away – unseen
    • toss it in the air or against the wall on our own
    • find someone who wants to play ball with us

Analogies are great but I’m going to reflect for a moment on a call with a friend a week or so ago because a lot of managing disappointment, challenges and obstacles has to do with taking care of ourselves and our expectations. There was hurt and harm in a relationship situation. Events occurred that were shocking, disappointing and seemed very uncharacteristic of the nature of the relationship. Getting through emotion was a large part of moving a cloud. It takes time. There can be anger, sadness, a feeling or loss and helplessness. The cloud can be a full on storm. Feelings maybe the hardest part. Add addiction to the mix and it becomes unclear, and seemingly insurmountable. We need the help of others with skills we don’t possess and may not be able to access.

I’m grateful that addiction is not an obstacle for me and it would be a blessing if it were that way for more of us, especially women with children.

All though it’s not easy, when anything comes my way I like to move into a CAN DO Approach. This means that I attempt to focus on what I CAN DO. Taking care of me first let’s me be the best I can be for others. I rely on people to take care of themselves also. In many situations help and resources are necessary for this to occur. I focus on the Steps 1 through 4 above as it lets me test where I’m at emotionally as well as breathe (or scream, cry, soak in water, listen to music or write for hours) – what ever I need to do to get to the point of being able to act on Step 1. Then remembering the ball was thrown my way – I get to chose if I want to play and how I want to play. This is not a place people with addiction challenges easily get to, even if they would like to, access to resources many not be available to help.

So today my choice is to share with you, Recovery Acres needs those funds to help Women have access and resources and I knew that over a year ago. I chose to be involved then so I’m going to play now.

Step 1: They need more awareness, support and funds.

Step 2: Here’s what I can do. I can share with you where to find more information. I can and am asking that you have a look and share the message with others. You can find out more information here and donate if you wish, the button is on the top right in red.

This is life and I just threw you the ball.  I respect the choice you chose to make.

Thank You.

The value in guest sites

Is your website the place for your blog?

This week a question around blog posts came up…

Are you one of the many that concentrate on creating blog posts for your website?

Content right?! Sharing our story….

A client featured her first blog on a group blog site, local to her area and in the demographic she is personally in. Her blog was sharing a story that is deep and meaningful to many other women her age.

I see so many benefits for her in finding a network that connected with others, sharing her challenges. She is able to be a support for so many, more quickly than she may have reached on her own.

I question if the depth of connection and interaction could ever be the same with her efforts on her own site.

Can you see the benefit in sharing your posts originally on guest sites and then linking them to your site?

What are guest sites? Sites and groups that are not yours.

Would you like help looking for sites like these?

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